Release and Let Go!

Release and Let Go!

In San Diego, California,   January 1995,  there was a tragedy of a murder of a 20 year who was delivering pizza. His name was Tariq Khamisa, murdered by a 14-year old gang member. The father, Azim, ended up forgiving the 14 year old for killing his son, became friends with the murder’s grandfather and together, the father Azim created in October 1995, the Tariq Khamisa Foundation. This foundation teaches violence prevention to gang members and others. Over 20,000 students annually have been served! They learn core values of integrity, compassionate confrontation, and forgiveness.

his story demonstrates the power of forgiveness and releasing!  It’s important to release and let go that which upsets us.  Easier said than done, I know only too well!  But it is possible.  Depending on the severity of the upset, letting go may happen within a few hours or a few weeks, sometimes longer.

Aware, acknowledge, process, release

To help you let go of upset: it’s important to first be aware of your upset, then acknwledge it. Your human so upsets happen. Don’t stuff it. Then process through your feelings and heal it. It may come back around but likely with less intensity.

Recognize also if it’s in your control or not. Whether it’s in your control or not, still follow the “aware, acknowledge, process, release” strategy.

If it’s in your control, come up with the actions you can take to deal with it. If you’re not in control of it, you can still control your reaction to it.

Here are 2 tools to help you release:

1. Repeat many times, phrases to yourself that are truthful and comforting, and say them with intention and feeing!  

Examples: 

It is what it is – I’m willing to accept it.

All worry in the world won’t change it.

I want peace, so I am willing to accept what it is.

I let go, and let God – God’s in charge anyway!

2. If your upset about someone, for example, their terminal illness, recognize it’s not up to you to judge on what a person is to experience and learn in their life, or how they are to learn it. They are on their own journey.  We don’t know what anything is for.

My wish for you is that you release and let go as best as you can, and create an acceptance around it.  When you do, you cultivate inner calm.

Love and light,

Kate